Perhaps it’s the New York Post that manages to cram the most obvious stupidity in a single lead, putting the word “engagement” in quotes (since it’s to a woman, it’s not a real engagement, right?) and calling her relationship with Tila Tequila part of “her most recent antics.”
Were she engaged to a man before her death, no reasonable reporter would call that relationship “antics.” If anything, a journalist might view the path toward hetero marriage as a sign of things shaping up in the life of a “lesbian socialite” — that she’s settling down — making her death even more of a shocking story. The reporter might even have seen fit to actually call the man what he is – her fiance – and even interview him, instead of just quoting inanities from Twitter.
And, as Anna N. says on Jezebel, when was the last time you heard someone refer to someone else’s “straight lover”? It’s lesbian lover or nothing, no matter what those damn dirty dykes want to be called. It’s a man’s world (and a straight man’s world, at that), and dammit, we’ll call you sexy/hateful lesbos whatever the hell we want!
Swallowing mouthfuls of disrespect is par for the course of being a woman, whether you are young, hot, or otherwise. Disrespect from society is par for the course of being gay no matter how closely you conform to the ideal of femininity (or masculinity, as the case may be), and neither death, nor wealth, nor fame seems to be able to save anyone from it all.